You may be thinking this idea is completely ludicrous. Stop pushing? Why would I want to do that? Aren’t I trying to have a baby? Yes, of course.
The thing is, there are times when you NEED to stop pushing because it’s going to cause more damage than be helpful. Here’s why.
Why You Feel You Need To Push
When your baby is so deep into your pelvis and your cervix is opening up, the pressure against everything surrounding gives you a very full feeling. Think of when you need to go to the bathroom because you’re really full. Or when you’re constipated and are trying to get some relief. The feeling here is pretty similar.
Your uterus will contract and move your baby through the birth canal without you telling it to.
Your vagina and lower colon are so close that they’re not separated by much. And when your baby’s head is taking up so much space, it can feel like your bowels are full and need to be emptied. So this can lead to you wanting to push when your cervix isn’t even fully dilated.
Pushing When You Shouldn’t
But what happens when you try to push and you’re not open as much as you should be?
- baby’s head presses against a closure and stress on them increases
- your cervix can become inflamed and resist opening further
- your dilation will stop progressing
- your labor and delivery will plateau and greater intervention is needed
We both don’t want this to happen to you. So knowing when it’s the right time to push is very important.
The miraculous thing about your body is that it can push your baby out without you even trying. It’s often called breathing out your baby.
Your uterus will contract and move your baby through the birth canal without you telling it to. Once you have that feeling of your body bearing down without effort on your part, then you know it’s an okay time to push.
How To Stop Pushing
So how do you resist that super big urge to push when your body isn’t ready for it?
Here’s a little trick:
- Purse your lips and blow air out like you’re blowing out a candle. Focus on pushing the air out into a steady stream, not exhaling with a big releasing breath. When you do this, your abdominal muscles work in the opposite direction of bearing down.
- Then try to push downward at the same time. It’s really hard to do, right?
- Now try it when you’re on the toilet and see if you can help push out a bowel movement while ‘blowing out a candle.’
If you were to do this in labor, blowing out a candle will stop you from pushing. If you try to do the same, but your body is bearing down no matter what, then you know it’s perfectly fine to push along with it.
Most likely you will not have to worry about stopping the urge to push. However, knowing about it beforehand is super important so that your labor and delivery goes as smooth as possible. Every little bit helps, right?
Are you practicing on the potty? Let me know your thoughts.