You are amazing! You have come SO far. Look back and think about your journey through how to be fearless for your birth. It’s been almost two months and now you’re at the close of this series. If you’re coming in a little late, go to Part 1 here and you can progress through from there.
There’s not much left that I can teach you on this topic (except one thing). You’ve already decided to face your fears, examine why you have them and accept their existence positively. From there you researched all you could in order to gain proper perspective. Then you decided to listen to the good, pay attention to how your emotions affect you, and stop the negativity. What’s left?
How To Be Fearless By Smiling
The last ‘S’ in FEARLESS is to Smile. I know, it’s short and simple, but it’s important.
Whatever happens, just smile.
It would be great if all the difficult encounters, negative influences, and mental triggers would just disappear after dealing with them. But sadly, it’s not reality.
What you CAN do is hold onto the good that you have strengthened within yourself. You will be unwavering when you do.
How To Keep Smiling
Pick something that touches and inspires you about your birth and post it where you can see it every day.
- on your mirror
- reminders on your phone
- on the dash of your car
- taped to the front of your fridge
- on the desktop of your computer
- in a frame at your desk
I’m sure that amidst the negativity, you’ve also discovered a story or quote that caused you to reflect and look forward to your birth. Capture that how you desire and keep it as a reminder when you have a rough day.
If you haven’t found something uplifting, please keep looking. There is SO much in this world surrounding birth that will make you smile. I know for a fact that you will smile once that baby is placed in your arms. Envisioning and looking forward to that day is a healthy habit that I encourage you to establish.
Over the years of writing here on the blog, I’ve framed a few quotes myself that inspire me. You can pin these below so that you’ll always have them to look at.
In the end, if you have to fake it to make it, do it. Just do it.
Envision The Joy
One thing that you can do every single day is to envision the birth of your baby and the joy you will feel once it happens. Make part of your morning routine envisioning the joy of your birth.
Here’s how to do that.
- Choose a regular time every day to devote a healthy focus on envisioning your birth.
- Find a quiet place where you can be comfortable.
- Close your eyes.
- Picture the process of birth and how you want it to be.
- Imagine the feelings your body will go through as you labor and delivery.
- See in your mind your spouse there and others encouraging you.
- Imagine your baby emerging into view and being placed in your arms.
- Decide how you’ll feel, enraptured full of joy beyond expression and you sink in this moment.
- Now come back to where you are, pregnant and preparing for birth.
- Imagine all of the things you’re going to do to prepare: exercise, relaxing, working with your support, etc.
- See your body growing and becoming stronger.
- Decide to do everything you see yourself doing in order to go back to the joy of birth.
The most important part about envisioning your joyful birth is the process of getting to the end result of what you want. Having that final picture and goal in your mind is important. But seeing the process you’ll work through to get there is even MORE substantial.
Remember the reasons why you’re doing what you’re doing and choose to focus on the meaningful and good.
When you have a long day and are frustrated, you can see in your mind working toward the ultimate goal and be positive about that. Remember the reasons why you’re doing what you’re doing and choose to focus on the meaningful and good.
There’s not much more I can share about that except to commit to this. Commit to your desires and your fears will be squashed.
Now if you’re ready to take things to the next level, here’s a birthing course that I recommend that will further strengthen your mind and body for birth.
What ways are helping yourself smile every day? What do you envision for your birth and baby? Let me know in the comments!
Favorites In This Post:
- Make Over Your Mornings course by Crystal Paine, because a great start to your day will determine its entirety
Now Go To:
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 1: Face It
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 2: Examine It
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 3: Accept It
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 4: Do Your Research
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 5: Listen To The Right Voices
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 6: Handling Your Emotions
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 7: Stop
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 8: Smile