You’re pregnant. You’re emotional. You’re a mess. How the heck are you going to be fearless? Let’s summarize how far you’ve come.
First, you decided to face it head on and dig deep into why you were afraid of certain things by examining them. Then came acceptance, choosing to accept the situation you’re in with greater power and responsibility.
Next, you explored the proper research out there about your fears to determine the truths behind them. Last, you chose to listen to only those positive people in your life. You’ve come a long way!
How To Be Fearless With Emotions
Has it been an emotional roller coaster? I’m sure it has. That’s why we’re going to talk about emotions today. So the second ‘E’ in fearless stands for Emotions.
Because of your ever rising hormones, your emotions seem to be on edge ALL the time. Something that you didn’t expect can trigger feelings you don’t normally feel. I remember when I was pregnant the first time and I would get so choked up at movies that were just simple comedies. I tried to hide it because it was embarrassing at first.
“I know it’s super hard sometimes when there are circumstances beyond your control. You have to let go of that control a lot when you’re pregnant and giving birth.”
Or have you experienced the other end of the emotional scale with increased irritability and anger? That can happen too. It’s a never ending flood sometimes.
The key to working with your emotions is simply recognizing the fact that this is your life for the next nine months. Once you know that you’re bound to have emotional flare-ups, you can rest assured that the moment will pass and you can continue on as before.
The problem is that many women will let their fears and anxieties perpetuate the situation and send them down a negative and doubting path emotionally. You don’t want this to happen! It’s completely normal to have bouts of sadness or anger at the simplest things. Just be aware of that so you don’t fall into the trap of letting it get to you.
Moving Forward & Letting Go
I know it’s super hard sometimes when there are circumstances beyond your control. You have to let go of that control a lot when you’re pregnant and giving birth. But you can still control your decisions of how to react and proceed. That’s what makes you YOU.
So how can you move ahead and deal with up-ending emotions in a positive way?
Make a list of all the things that will trigger you to feel all of these different emotions:
Then create an action plan of how you’re going to react to those emotional situations.
- Are you going to dwell on the confusion or frustration?
- Or are you going to do some deep breathing and keep up to move so your happy serotonin levels will come back?
- Are you going to dismiss a happy moment and doubt your worth in receiving it?
- Or are you going to surround yourself with reminders about that positive thing?
It’s up to you.
What To Do
Here are some of the things that you can do to help keep your emotions on the positive side of things.
- tape your ultrasound picture up where you’ll see it every day
- wear the cutest maternity clothes you’ve got
- take a relaxing bubble bath
- write on your mirror positive affirmations for yourself
- watch your favorite uplifting movie
- read positive birth stories
- journal every day about the things you’re grateful for
- use essential oils that can help lift your spirits
- if you already have children, spend special moments with them doing the things you love together
- continue to date your husband every single week
- secretly enjoy that dark chocolate you’ve been wanting
- meditate and relax regularly
- cuddle up with a good book
You’ve already made an action plan about what you’ll do when you get down. Now just assign your favorite pick-me-up to each situation that you anticipate. Then you no longer have to stress about terrible emotions because you’ve already decided what to do when they arise.
What things do you do when you’re dealing with a hard heart or going through rough times? Let me know! I’m looking for better ideas to liven up my personal time.
Favorites In This Post:
- Natural Birth Stories: The Real Mom’s Guide to an Empowering Natural Birth, so you can be inspired and empowered 32 times
- Brookside Dark Chocolate Pomegranate, because it’s super hard to resist these when they’re actually good for you
Now Go To:
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 1: Face It
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 2: Examine It
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 3: Accept It
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 4: Do Your Research
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 5: Listen To The Right Voices
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 6: Handling Your Emotions
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 7: Stop
- How To Be Fearless When Birth Is Looming – Part 8: Smile