I don’t want to spend a ton of time on after birth bleeding, because ladies, it’s really not a fun topic. But I did find a way to get some humor out of it, so keep reading.
After Birth Bleeding
All you really need to know is that IT WILL STOP. Yes, it will go on forever, up to a month after you’ve had your baby. (I think it’s nature’s way of getting back at us from enjoying no period for 9 months.)
And yes, you get to wear those terribly huge pads at first that might as well be a diaper. You’re going to have clots in the mess when you use the restroom that will disgust you. Plus you won’t feel clean for a few weeks ‘down there’, even though you’re gently rinsing with warm water 20 times a day.
If you want the full medical perspective on your after birth bleeding, this video sums it all up.
It really just isn’t a nice experience. Which is why I don’t want to dwell on it. You’ve all had a period. Just think of that, only five times worse and five times longer. ‘Nuff said.
Doctor Told Him To Man Up
What I mainly wanted to share was some humor for the start of your work week. I recently read a blog from a guy that genuinely wrote about his experience of needing to wear maxi pads after a rectal surgery.
His doctor said to get maxi pads because he would be bleeding for awhile. So of course, him being a single guy gave the doc a state of refusal to do so and his doctor told him to “Man Up.”
So I was thinking about this…..
Normally when some poor sap is told to “man up”, it means that he needs to stop being a sissy or wimp, or to just grunt out some testosterone and deal with a situation. It’s quite insulting really, for any man. (Read about what I think is insulting for most pregnant women to be told, here.)
Then the egos kick in and tempers may flare, but the man eventually “mans up”, or whatever.
So I thought that in this case, “manning up” to what a woman goes through, is actually the MORE dignified and elevated state of being. If one man tells another man to “man up” about doing something we socially-characterized-weak little women do, what does that say about how we should be perceived?
Basically, this guy was essentially being called a weakling for not being willing to go through something that we women deal with ALL THE TIME.
Let’s think about this: most of us have a period every month for 3-7 days. Plus after we’ve given birth vaginally, we bleed for another 30-45 days constantly after that.
Compared to this guy who bled for maybe a few weeks after his surgery, the tally is OF COURSE in our favor when it comes to said bleeding issues.
And are we told to “man up?” (or “woman up?”) Are WE ever told to just “deal with it?”
NO–because it’s an integral cog in the turning wheels of our life–something than men WILL NEVER HAVE.
So what I’m trying to say it that we should feel proud of the fact that we CAN deal with so much MORE than a man EVER could.
Men can NEVER measure up to the pedestal that we should place ourselves on. You should feel good about yourself because of that.
In fact, in the blog I read, I really like what he said:
“We should really have more sympathy for the women of this world. A lot more sympathy for them.”
So maybe next time your husband or guy gives you the guff for needing to walk down the tampon and maxi pad aisle, or when you politely ask him to pick some up for you, or when he complains that some of those disposables are visible in the bathroom garbage–just shove this post in his face and tell him to “Man Up!”
Here’s best to your bottom. 🙂